With yet another school shooting so early in the school year, parents around the country are wondering what they need to do when they address the situation with their children.
Emplify Health by Bellin is offering guidance for parents on how to approach this sensitive topic with children at different developmental stages – elementary, middle, and high school.
Tips for Parents of Elementary Students:
- Use simple, clear language. Avoid graphic details that may be frightening.
- Reassure your child that schools are safe places and that adults are working hard to keep them safe.
- Encourage your child to express their feelings and listen attentively.
- Emphasize the importance of telling a trusted adult if they ever feel scared or see something concerning.
- Maintain routines to provide a sense of normalcy and security.
Tips for Parents of Middle School Students:
- Acknowledge that middle schoolers may have heard about school shootings from peers or media.
- Encourage open dialogue and ask what they have heard or think about the topic.
- Provide honest but age-appropriate information, avoiding sensationalism.
- Discuss safety measures schools have in place and the importance of community vigilance.
- Help them develop coping strategies for stress, such as physical activity, creative outlets, or talking to trusted adults.
Tips for Parents of High School Students:
- Recognize that high school students may seek more detailed information and have stronger opinions.
- Engage in respectful conversations that validate their feelings and concerns.
- Discuss the role of social media and how to critically evaluate information.
- Encourage involvement in school safety initiatives or peer support groups.
- Promote mental
Dr. Tiffany Born, Emplify Health by Bellin pediatric psychologist emphasizes the importance of considering the child’s capability to process the information shared.
She notes, “When discussing difficult topics like school shootings, it is vital to gauge the child’s emotional readiness and cognitive ability to understand the information. Tailoring the conversation to their developmental stage – and providing the right amount of information for their age and questions – helps prevent unnecessary fear and supports wellbeing.”
Parents are encouraged to stay informed about their child’s school safety policies and to maintain open lines of communication.
Providing a supportive environment where children feel heard and safe can make a significant difference in their emotional well-being.
For more resources and support on talking to children about difficult topics, parents can visit Bellin.org.
